善待自己与在乎你的人。

那些失去，在日后都会以不同的模样再回到你身边。

 favourite emotion

RM: the yearning and the will to become a better person is the most precious emotion to me

 为了未来的你 我要成为更好的自己 :')

#enlightened #thankyouwisdom&knowledge

lessons from Kelly & Ken's wedding

1. “A good communication is when you speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.” 
2. Good communication is about helping each other be known, feel known, feel understood (rather than what you say). Not to tell or ask, but so that we can know each other. To know and to be known. 
3. Be quick to listen, slow to speak, be patient with one another. Good relationships do not grow overnight. It takes time to grow, learn. Giving a lot of space and patience for one another. 
4. True love will forgive. A great marriage is not when two perfect individuals come together without suffering. No suffering =/= A great marriage. It’s two imperfect individual, man and woman, they learn to embrace each others’ differences and make the marriage great. You have your weaknesses/shortfalls, challenges, but always remember: The purpose of the marriage is to help each other become better. Overcome evil with good. Do not repay evil with evil. During difficult times, make every effort (not to seek revenge) to build peace and unity in your marriage. Be kind and compassionate to one another and be forgiving to each other. 
5. Good communication + I love you. I am sorry. I forgive you no matter what it takes. 
6. “Love is when once the fight ends, love is still there.” To love someone at their worst and bringing out their best. 
7. Being authentic, truthful, honest with one another 
8. Secret to sustain marriage: stick to what we promised to each other the day we commit to our vows, especially when we are going through difficult times. We must remind what we promise to each other. Bad times, good times, we stay together. 
9. Friendship is important, before and even after marriage. True friends never fail, no matter what it takes. It is good to have a friend and you can enjoy the work you and a friend do together. A true friend is always ready to help in times of need. Remain in touch. Encourage one another. Continue to keep each other updated on your lives. Help each other to remember why you chose each other in the first place 
10. “Most conflicts in marriage that happen is not because of a difference in personality. That’s one of the common excuses. People often say “oh because we have different personalities, we think in different perspectives…” Most conflicts in marriage is a result of bad communication. Relationships take time to learn and grow from each other. 
11. Conflicts in a relationship go beyond bad communication. A lot of times, the real root is actually our selfishness. You never know how selfish you are until you try to love. Selfishness is when one focuses more on their own needs more than the others. To have a good relationship, we must learn to put your partner before you. 
12. Humans’ love alone is not enough, due to our human nature to be selfish. A good relationship takes work and takes time to build. It can’t happen 
13.  Continue to forgive. True love forgives.

 thank you for letting it go and putting it down in the gentlest way possible.

 

面对眼前的环境与问题，我们只能改变可以改变的，然后适应不能改变的，如果移不了山，就想办法绕过去。

其实，大部分的问题，并不是你没有能力处理，而是没有心思处理。

凡事不是只想着讨厌的部分，往让自己开心的地方思考，心情好了，事情也会跟着好了。

 "我對另一半跟朋友都超重感情，但因為掏心掏肺的為對方付出，所以很容易期望越高越容易失落，真的有時候很討厭自己這樣，因為不懂的人會覺得，為什麼我這麼玻璃心，抗壓性這麼低，但其實只是真心真意的對待對我來說重要的人❤️"

Even though this means we get hurt more, I should be proud that I'm a sentimental being who puts so much thoughts and love into the people I care about dearly. I should celebrate it as a gift. Not everyone can do that.