"Listen Sumire. 

If you're ever in love, just make sure it's real, yes? 

And marrying someone doesn't... doesn't make it real. 

And if you choose not to, it doesn't mean it wasn't real, either. 

Also, real love isn't just a romantic feeling. You can fall in love with your art, not just a man. Nor does love for the art stop you from loving someone. 

Maybe, it's not too late."

- Momoko, The Makanai, Episode 5: Choice 

 善待自己与在乎你的人。

那些失去，在日后都会以不同的模样再回到你身边。

 favourite emotion

RM: the yearning and the will to become a better person is the most precious emotion to me

 为了未来的你 我要成为更好的自己 :')

#enlightened #thankyouwisdom&knowledge

lessons from Kelly & Ken's wedding

1. “A good communication is when you speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.” 
2. Good communication is about helping each other be known, feel known, feel understood (rather than what you say). Not to tell or ask, but so that we can know each other. To know and to be known. 
3. Be quick to listen, slow to speak, be patient with one another. Good relationships do not grow overnight. It takes time to grow, learn. Giving a lot of space and patience for one another. 
4. True love will forgive. A great marriage is not when two perfect individuals come together without suffering. No suffering =/= A great marriage. It’s two imperfect individual, man and woman, they learn to embrace each others’ differences and make the marriage great. You have your weaknesses/shortfalls, challenges, but always remember: The purpose of the marriage is to help each other become better. Overcome evil with good. Do not repay evil with evil. During difficult times, make every effort (not to seek revenge) to build peace and unity in your marriage. Be kind and compassionate to one another and be forgiving to each other. 
5. Good communication + I love you. I am sorry. I forgive you no matter what it takes. 
6. “Love is when once the fight ends, love is still there.” To love someone at their worst and bringing out their best. 
7. Being authentic, truthful, honest with one another 
8. Secret to sustain marriage: stick to what we promised to each other the day we commit to our vows, especially when we are going through difficult times. We must remind what we promise to each other. Bad times, good times, we stay together. 
9. Friendship is important, before and even after marriage. True friends never fail, no matter what it takes. It is good to have a friend and you can enjoy the work you and a friend do together. A true friend is always ready to help in times of need. Remain in touch. Encourage one another. Continue to keep each other updated on your lives. Help each other to remember why you chose each other in the first place 
10. “Most conflicts in marriage that happen is not because of a difference in personality. That’s one of the common excuses. People often say “oh because we have different personalities, we think in different perspectives…” Most conflicts in marriage is a result of bad communication. Relationships take time to learn and grow from each other. 
11. Conflicts in a relationship go beyond bad communication. A lot of times, the real root is actually our selfishness. You never know how selfish you are until you try to love. Selfishness is when one focuses more on their own needs more than the others. To have a good relationship, we must learn to put your partner before you. 
12. Humans’ love alone is not enough, due to our human nature to be selfish. A good relationship takes work and takes time to build. It can’t happen 
13.  Continue to forgive. True love forgives.

 thank you for letting it go and putting it down in the gentlest way possible.

 

面对眼前的环境与问题，我们只能改变可以改变的，然后适应不能改变的，如果移不了山，就想办法绕过去。

其实，大部分的问题，并不是你没有能力处理，而是没有心思处理。

凡事不是只想着讨厌的部分，往让自己开心的地方思考，心情好了，事情也会跟着好了。

 "我對另一半跟朋友都超重感情，但因為掏心掏肺的為對方付出，所以很容易期望越高越容易失落，真的有時候很討厭自己這樣，因為不懂的人會覺得，為什麼我這麼玻璃心，抗壓性這麼低，但其實只是真心真意的對待對我來說重要的人❤️"

Even though this means we get hurt more, I should be proud that I'm a sentimental being who puts so much thoughts and love into the people I care about dearly. I should celebrate it as a gift. Not everyone can do that.

流金岁月

 Episode 26

叶总：图书馆在我心里 像神一样的存在。你仔细想 你进图书馆 你进书店 跟这些商场有根本的不同。它的气氛让你心静 甚至它空气的味道都跟别处不一样 读书是一个习惯 进图书馆也是一个习惯 从长远来看 我觉得人们只要慢慢习惯了 就一定会去

范金刚：叶总是个理想主义者 | Mr Ye is an idealist

叶总：理想主义者 有时候是很孤独的。马尔克斯有一句话：孤独前可能是迷茫 孤独后便是成长 我们一起成长吧, 让这个项目慢慢地成熟，慢慢的扩展 | Sometimes an idealist is lonely. Marcus has a saying: you might feel lost before you feel lonely. After you feel lonely, you will grow. Let's grow together and slowly develop this project.

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我认为我做的所有功课，它不会白费。所以说，收获它可能会迟到 但它永远不会缺席

Decluttering Finds

2020 was a big year for decluttering especially with the amount of time spent at home. Happy to have incorporated it as a regular habit in my life!

Sharing some finds from my decluttering process today: Featuring several geeky yet savage pick up lines which really made me laugh back in secondary school

Guy: I saw your empty valence shell from way over there. Did I mention my nickname is Sodium?

Girl: Did I mention my nickname is Argon?

Guy: You're like an exothermic reaction, you spread your hotness everywhere!

Girl: But the bonds I am forming are not with you.

Guy: If I were a function you would be my asymptote - I always tend towards you.

Girl: But you can never hope to reach me. Ever.

Guy: I hope you know set theory because I want to intersect and union you.

Girl: You can't intersect or union the null set.

Guy: I wish I was your derivative so I could lie tangent to your curves.

Girl: Sorry, you're my asymptote.

via GIPHY

The last one is my favourite.

 Something I made sure I am mindful of prior to starting my first full-time job... Glad it still holds true.

The Gig Economy

"Defining our vision of success is not a one-time exercise. It's one we should revisit routinely throughout our lives."

"... advocates that we take "pit stops" along the way to accomplishing our goals in order to evaluate our priorities and our varying definitions of success. This means that we need to check in, reflect, and recalibrate regularly. We should - both on our own and then together with a partner or close friend - stop to reflect and update our definition and go back through this chapter to review and respond to the list of questions again. Our answers are likely to have changed, and, if so, we'll need to course correct."

心灵鸡汤

1. 【提升】「千萬別在最好的年齡，吃得最胖、用得最差、活得最得宜！」句句有感，都會女子生存金句指南 

2. 【分享】從不公開年齡的包袱是？被什麼啟發讓我想法轉彎？｜Blaire推薦給每位被年齡綑綁的你 

3. I'M PROUD of BEING SINGLE !!｜Blaire碎碎唸 #25

The Sweet Spot by Christine Carter

 

Chapter 5 - Easing "The Overwhelm"

"Whatever you do, don't waffle. Embrace the choices you make."

"Make your decisions and be done with them. The brain naturally justifies its choices and actually creates positive sentiment about them - but only when it perceives that a choice is complete and can't be reversed."

- Dan Gilbert, Harvard psychologist

”不要逼自己完美，因为完美不好看“

"30 岁以后 我越来越喜欢自己。所有的改变都是为了更忠于自己。所有的不变都让人更加珍惜。"

For me, I feel like this applies after I turned 25. <3

Source

Simple and peaceful like a cup of warm tea.

This could really be my dream life. 

Seasons

Just thought of penning down a few moments that resonated with the me in the past/present.


The Dark Season - Justin Bieber Seasons

Dr Daniel Amen: "Having got to know Justin, I know he's got a really good heart. And when he's balanced, he does really amazing things for other people. But it's hard to do amazing things for other people when your brain is not right."

Justin: "Honestly I'm committed to getting better, and committed to whatever I have to do, whether it's inconvenient or not. Because I know ultimately, it's not only for me, but being the best me is gonna help me be the best husband, the best father, the best friend I can possibly be. And for all the fans that want to enjoy the music that I make and stuff. I can't make it if i'm not healthy. And I haven't been healthy for a long time."

Only Up From Here

Hailey: "I have no idea. I feel like creative people tend to be night owls."

Justin: "Life is good. Life is amazing. We have so many things to be grateful for. So many things to wake up and look at and be like oh my gosh. But you know, we gotta make much of what we have. You can always be grateful for something."

The Wedding

Scooter: "I've seen a change in Justin since Hailey came into his life, and I think any man finds a good woman, he's gonna have a good change. Justin's a better man because he married Hailey."

Justin: "The song - That's what love is. That one's about not everything need to be physical. I love her without needing to touch her."

Hailey: Everything happened the exact way it was supposed to, I really believe that. Even all the mishaps that might've happened and us stumbling over our words, and whatever it was. I think that it was so meant to be.

P: ... so realising this is possibly fate giving me a test and playing with me, I literally reached out in front of me and tapped him on the shoulder and said hi

A: ... You have a really big heart leh

P: Do I?

A: Yeah